A few relationship habits that can ruin your relationship. Being in a relationship takes a lot of work. It requires commitment. Trust. And loads of effort from both partners. We all have unique quirks that impact how we react to situations. Some of these reactions grow into bad relationship habits that affect the relationship. There are typically things we aren’t even aware of but make a huge difference once we focus on reversing the habits. Here are relationship habits to break and become couple goals.
Name Calling or Cursing At Your Partner
This is a definite no-no. Once the name calling begins, the level of respect is no longer the same. It also allows your partner to begin this vile behavior with you. Respect is the name of the game here. If this happens often, it is a signs of a toxic relationship.
Not Speaking Up in Your Relationship
Don’t be afraid to speak up and say what you want. Going with the flow is good when you’re on an adventure but not when choosing your life partner. Be honest with what you want, like and dislike. Break this relationship habit by practicing honesty.
Leaving During a Fight
Making this mistake is critical. Leaving during a fight translates to not caring for the discussion and more so, for your partner who is trying to communicate their feelings. Show respect and stay. Take a breather if needed but make it clear you are not leaving but giving some space to cool off.
Not Being Present
An easy one not to follow with the many distractions we face today in the palm of our hands. Take the time to be present and not scrolling through social media. Invest in the relationship that’s right in front of you. Try chatting about your next travel destination or where your next date night should be. Or have an amazing date night right at home.
Being Codependent in a Relationship
Repeat after me: I am my own person.
Yes. Yes, you are. This has been around since the beginning of time. Couples getting lost in the relationship thus developing a codependency that inhibits them from growing into the person they are meant to become. Keeping your independence is important to keep a healthy relationship. It’s okay to have a hobby you enjoy and not your partner. Those are the little things that will keep you, YOU.
Watching TV Before Bed
Since Netflix and chill became a thing, being glued to the television is our new normal. Well it shouldn’t be. Take time to cuddle. A few relationship use it as a bonding tool but did you know a few experts suggest having a tv in the bedroom impacts intimacy. Having a sexless marriage can be the start of the end.
So how important is sex in a relationship?
Pretty important. Humans need physical touch. Sex goes hand in hand with intimacy. The feel-good hormone oxytocin is released with an orgasm. Sex bonds you and your partner, making you feel closer to each other.
Avoid Difficult Conversations
We’ve all been there. Avoiding a difficult conversation to avoid an argument. Newsflash! We are all unique in our own way. It’s okay to disagree on a few things, specifically the ‘light’ things. Say what to cook for dinner? But the ‘heavy’ things, those conversations that let you know if a relationship is going to work, those discussions need to happen sooner than later. I once new a friend who was dating someone who didn’t want to have children when she’s always been vocal about wanting to be a mom. Don’t sacrifice your happiness.
Planning Out We Time
Date nights should be a weekly event. Really! Pencil it in! Carving out ‘we’ time ensures you and your partner get to connect at the end of a work week or chasing after toddlers. Spending quality time is essential for a loving relationship. It needs attention and constant love to continue to flourish.
Comparing Your Relationship to Others
Stop scrolling through instagram. Your reality is better than what you see on the screen. It’s very easy to compare your life to the insta perfect couple who boast on their relationship goals on every post.
Don’t compare yourself to other. You don’t know what journey they’re on.
Let’s focus on building a healthy relationship.
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